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2014 DATING TIP #55: Live the Dream, Embrace Compromise

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Compromise isn’t sexy, for sure, but it’s the reality of any relationship, especially the marriage kind.

Ask ANY happily married person you know if they ever compromise with their spouse or kids and they’ll shock you by telling you how many times they have to compromise something in their life… every day! So if it’s a reality for married couples why would it be any different in a serious dating relationship that could be heading for marriage?

But what do I mean by COMPROMISE?

There are two categories of compromise that must be defined:

#1. Areas that you should NEVER compromise. This includes standards of character, integrity, sexual purity, honesty, and aspects of your spirituality or faith. You should keep your standards high for the both of you and never let someone you’re dating tear away at the things that have to do with MORALITY and TRUST. If they are, that fool needs to go…fast.

But that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m speaking about the second category.

#2. Areas of personal preference, selfishness, or non-essential things that you should ALWAYS be open to compromise. This is the killer list and is what can slow you down or sabotage what could be a fantastic relationship that leads to marriage. You still with me?

This category includes pretty much EVERYTHING not included under category #1. Things like changing schedules, preferences in food, exercise, entertainment, night life, wants, likes, desires…things that YOU MAY BE USED TO HAVING FINAL SAY AND FULL CONTROL OVER, those things. You hearing me?

What I’m telling you right now is the real, raw, unedited truth about marriage and life. So you’d better just embrace it and deal with it, because here’s the problem: if your expectations about life while you are dating (or looking to date) someone are unrealistic, then you may jump ship from a potentially awesome marriage relationship due to your own selfish little wants and desires. Let me put it another way: if your quest for the “perfect mate” really is more about finding the person who fits nice and neat into the incredible life that you’ve made for yourself and really don’t want to change, then you may be living more of a fairy tale than real life, my friend.

Listen, I care about you.

I know that this dating thing is WAY more nuanced and complex than one little blog post can ever truly cover. But hear my heart in this. Society has sold us a fantasy that says that you can have it all. Well, you can’t.

And you know what? Life isn’t designed like that. Because if it was, then you and I would never grow. We would never have to face our own selfishness or have to man up in certain situations or face our fears or expand our souls through sacrifice, giving, serving, and unconditional love – IF WE GOT EXACTLY WHAT WE WANTED THEN WE WOULDN’T EVER HAVE THE CHANCE TO BECOME BETTER VERSIONS OF OURSELVES.

So do yourself a favor today and embrace compromise. Know that the relationship you’re in (or the next one around the corner) isn’t perfect on purpose, in fact it is designed to change you. So without lowering your standards in the areas that matter, celebrate the opportunities you have to get involved in the give-and-take, the self-sacrifice, and the imperfect life that you are growing to understand you will have to embrace if you want to live the dream.

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“How To Get Your Kids To Stop Whining So You Can Have Peace In Your Home Again” – Part 1

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Is your child’s whining sucking the life out of you?

Not only can it be incessant, frustrating and earth-shatteringly annoying, but what some parents are not aware of is that it is poison to our kids as well!

Whining is emotional laziness.

It is a combination of a lack of self-control and a lack of emotional intelligence – they are simply making a wrong choice. The easy, selfish one. And we can’t let that happen because it is hurting them more than we know.

Check out this vid and start taking back your life today while gaining some practical equipping tools you can use right now with your kids that will empower them for success in life.

And make sure to check out PART 2 that will dive deeper into some of the practical tools we’ve got at our disposal to find success in this area.

Enjoy & SHARE.

YOU CAN DO IT,

Dean

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“How To Discipline Your Child WITHOUT Anger… Finally!”

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Would you like to know the simple secret to once and for all banishing ANGER, MANIPULATION, SCREAMING & TEARING OUT YOUR HAIR from your discipline system?

Because this is seriously it.

This takes work, for sure – no one is saying this is easy. But it’s really this SIMPLE.

Check it out and start implementing this stuff in your parenting TODAY.

This one revelation has forever changed the way my wife and I parent and I use it every single day.

If this encourages and empowers you, then make sure to SHARE the video with some family or friends who could use this simple technique in their parenting ASAP.

YOU CAN DO IT. You know this.

Aloha,

Dean

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“The Secret Motivation Boost For Doing The Tough Stuff As A Parent”

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Are you tired, depressed, or feeling like giving up as a parent?

Are you struggling with holding the course and following through with discipline? Especially when it seems like nothing’s working!

Well, here’s one extremely PRACTICAL THING I do that helps me break through the despair and frustration.

Because the truth is that if we can’t find the MOTIVATION WITHIN US to be good parents, then all the training and teaching on parenting won’t matter, will it?

Check out this quick vid on the secret I use to motivate me through the tantrums, tiredness and marathon of parenting.

YOU CAN DO IT!

Dean

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“3 Entertainment Media Issues You Are NOT Dealing With That Are Destroying Your Child”

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Are you looking for some help with all of these entertainment media devices in your home and in your child’s pocket?

Is there something you just can’t put your finger on that isn’t quite right with the amount of freedom, access and intensity your child has with electronics? Things like video games, television, downloading music and movies, texting, Youtube, streaming videos and chatting?

In this video we open up one of the most important discussions we NEED TO BE HAVING RIGHT NOW as young parents in this rapidly changing culture. Because if we aren’t asking these questions and being intentional with these issues, then we will be setting up our kids for failure in life.


Please do not underestimate how important this is!

If you are NOT asking these questions, then you need to check this out and feel the urgency and relevance of these issues. They are not going away – they are here to stay and it’s only going to get more complex.

Let this video encourage and empower you.

* This is an EXCELLENT resource for parents when it comes to all things media/entertainment/electronics: http://www.generationsofvirtue.org/category/technology/

Julie Hiramine does an incredible job with both the practical & philosophical issues involved here. It is from a Christian perspective, but is truly applicable and highly practical for any family.

YOU CAN DO IT!

Aloha,

Dean

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