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SAVE ME FROM MY KIDS! (How To Survive Winter Break Without Losing Your Mind)

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You know what I’m talking about. The kids are freaking sugared up, whining and wasted from sleepovers and late night parties, full blown cabin fever has set in, and the amount of movies, electronics, video games and i- everythings are turning them into zombified psychopaths.

Or is it just me?

Here are some quick tips on how to increase the peace.

#1. QUIET TIME AFTER LUNCH: this is one of our best hidden gems. After lunch, break the kiddos up and send them to their rooms (or another quiet place) for a specific amount of time – I use a timer and set it for 45 min or an hour. The RULES: only reading, no games, cell phones, TV, music. Nothing. ONLY reading. Some times we let them draw or write as well. But the idea is to simplify their souls for a time and allow them to “reboot” and “realign” their hearts and souls. Maybe some of them will even fall asleep! The other bonus to this is a patch of quiet time for you (wink).

#2. OUTSIDE PLAY: this may seem like, duh, but it is surprising how little kids play outside these days. Well, it’s even more important over winter break! Get those zombies outside! Now I know that for many of you it’s snowing or freezing cold – I get it. But do whatever it takes to get some fresh air and physical exercise in those little bods. And here’s another key in how to do it (because your kids most likely will protest at first): get up and go out to play WITH them! Not only is it important for you to get some exercise, it will create bonding memories for the whole family.

#3. CRAFTS, BOARD GAMES, & CREATIVE ACTIVITIES: the key to this is simple – when our kids are PROACTIVE with activities versus PASSIVE, their level of engagement increases and their attitudes have a greater shot at changing for the better. I don’t have any science or social data to prove this outside of my own experience, but I can tell you that playing Legos or building a fort outside or in the living room with sheets and pillows rejuvenates your child’s soul in a way that watching a movie or playing a video game on their iPad can never do. And here comes the success tip once again: it’s better if you can make the time to do this WITH your kiddos, not just bark at them to go and figure it out themselves.

I know you’re tired. So am I.

Make a plan. Stick to it. FORCE YOURSELF to do this with your kids. I know you’d rather pass out on the couch, but you’ll be happier and healthier if you PUSH forward with these simple ideas.

And so will your kids.

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If You’re Afraid Of Having Kids…

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Here’s something I’ve learned that might encourage you today: you can never out-give your family.

What I mean by that is no matter how much I serve, sacrifice, or make selfless choices for the benefit of my wife and kids (which is a very intense reality for folks looking square on at how their lives will change once they start having kiddos), they ALWAYS pour love, fun, and enrichment back into my life beyond what I have ever done for them.

I’ve tested this out for more than 15 years now with my wife and our 5 children, and I am now convinced it is a natural family law: you can never out-give your spouse and kids.

Here’s the trick: true selflessness isn’t thinking about what it will get in return or how it comes back to them. Selflessness is unconditional love, which means that it pours out without expecting anything in return. Truly. But the magic of this is that once that is activated – BOOM! – you are investing in a natural law that is getting ready to bless your socks off. Sounds contradictory, I know, but it’s what I’ve discovered to be true.

Feel free to try it for yourself.

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“How To Discipline Your Child WITHOUT Anger… Finally!”

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Would you like to know the simple secret to once and for all banishing ANGER, MANIPULATION, SCREAMING & TEARING OUT YOUR HAIR from your discipline system?

Because this is seriously it.

This takes work, for sure – no one is saying this is easy. But it’s really this SIMPLE.

Check it out and start implementing this stuff in your parenting TODAY.

This one revelation has forever changed the way my wife and I parent and I use it every single day.

If this encourages and empowers you, then make sure to SHARE the video with some family or friends who could use this simple technique in their parenting ASAP.

YOU CAN DO IT. You know this.

Aloha,

Dean

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