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Is Counting At Your Kids To Make Them Obey You Hurting Or Helping Them?

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You know what I’m talking about.

“Krissy, I already told you twice to put that down and get in the car, we’re late. One…Two…Two and half…”

Now, I’m not an Anti-Counting Nazi or anything, but let me share with you why Holly and I are not “counters.”

#1. It is reasonable to set the standard for your children to obey you the first time. By asking twice or counting, we are teaching our kids that they don’t have to obey the first time. Instead, they can wait for mom or dad to get really angry or so serious that they start to count. So that’s not good. If first-time obedience is not a priority for your family, I encourage you to make it one. For us, it is the standard we are always working towards and responding off of.

#2. Counting is flippin’ draining for mom and dad. In your discipline and life of obedience with your kids, you should always avoid any behavior that drains energy from you. Is growing our kids hard work? Yes, but there is good hard work and bad hard work. Good hard work bears fruit over time in your children (as they grow in responsibility and self-control) and is life-GIVING. Bad hard work is the kind that sucks life out of you as YOU carry the majority of the burden of life for your kids and they don’t mature – they actually become more dependant and self-centered over time.

#3. “Counters”often don’t follow up with whatever the heck happens at “Three.” And when they do, it is often a burst of anger. Both of those responses are equally unhelpful to the maturing of our kids (not to mention it is really like a time-bomb for our frustration that WE are counting down to!). Lack of follow-through or outbursts of anger don’t help. Or the other threat, “Okay, we’re leaving without you.” C’mon, you’re not really going to leave your child.

Check out the other videos and posts on the site for what you CAN do to develop obedience in your child if you’re done being a “counter.” Like this one.

YOU CAN DO IT!

All the best as we start a new year together…

Dean

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“The 3 Steps To Get Your Child To Obey You The First Time”

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Are you tired of nagging, begging and pleading with your kids to obey you?

What if there were some simple steps you could take TODAY that would revolutionize your family life and cause your child to obey the first time you asked? Sound too good to be true? Check this short vid (originally posted on SupermomCEO.com) and start implementing these practical steps to see real transformation in your home.

And make sure to SHARE this with others you know who could really use some encouragement and help.

YOU CAN DO IT!

Dean

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“One Thing You Must Do To Develop Your Child’s Self-Image”

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If you don’t understand the dynamics of this one concept, you may be hurting your child’s self-image and their chances for success in life.

It’s really that important!

In this vid I break down the seemingly esoteric concept of UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and how we practically show this to our kids in everyday life.

Check it:

Enjoy & SHARE!

Dean

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“How To Discipline Your Child WITHOUT Anger… Finally!”

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Would you like to know the simple secret to once and for all banishing ANGER, MANIPULATION, SCREAMING & TEARING OUT YOUR HAIR from your discipline system?

Because this is seriously it.

This takes work, for sure – no one is saying this is easy. But it’s really this SIMPLE.

Check it out and start implementing this stuff in your parenting TODAY.

This one revelation has forever changed the way my wife and I parent and I use it every single day.

If this encourages and empowers you, then make sure to SHARE the video with some family or friends who could use this simple technique in their parenting ASAP.

YOU CAN DO IT. You know this.

Aloha,

Dean

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“The Secret Motivation Boost For Doing The Tough Stuff As A Parent”

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Are you tired, depressed, or feeling like giving up as a parent?

Are you struggling with holding the course and following through with discipline? Especially when it seems like nothing’s working!

Well, here’s one extremely PRACTICAL THING I do that helps me break through the despair and frustration.

Because the truth is that if we can’t find the MOTIVATION WITHIN US to be good parents, then all the training and teaching on parenting won’t matter, will it?

Check out this quick vid on the secret I use to motivate me through the tantrums, tiredness and marathon of parenting.

YOU CAN DO IT!

Dean

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“3 Entertainment Media Issues You Are NOT Dealing With That Are Destroying Your Child”

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Are you looking for some help with all of these entertainment media devices in your home and in your child’s pocket?

Is there something you just can’t put your finger on that isn’t quite right with the amount of freedom, access and intensity your child has with electronics? Things like video games, television, downloading music and movies, texting, Youtube, streaming videos and chatting?

In this video we open up one of the most important discussions we NEED TO BE HAVING RIGHT NOW as young parents in this rapidly changing culture. Because if we aren’t asking these questions and being intentional with these issues, then we will be setting up our kids for failure in life.


Please do not underestimate how important this is!

If you are NOT asking these questions, then you need to check this out and feel the urgency and relevance of these issues. They are not going away – they are here to stay and it’s only going to get more complex.

Let this video encourage and empower you.

* This is an EXCELLENT resource for parents when it comes to all things media/entertainment/electronics: http://www.generationsofvirtue.org/category/technology/

Julie Hiramine does an incredible job with both the practical & philosophical issues involved here. It is from a Christian perspective, but is truly applicable and highly practical for any family.

YOU CAN DO IT!

Aloha,

Dean

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“The Magic Phrase That Will Ignite Obedience In Your Child’s Mind & Heart”

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Wouldn’t it be great if there was a “magic phrase” that would immediately ignite a cycle of thoughtful obedience in your child or teen?

Well, there is.

I seriously LOVE this phrase and it can be applied in almost any situation, anytime, anywhere. And it’s not sassy or sarcastic, it’s a super-empowering phrase that will challenge and equip your child to become a responsible thinker and emotionally-intelligent young adult.

Check it out:

 

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